Dear Diary,
Today, I spent some time reflecting on how I envision my public interactions with my Dom, based on his preferences and our dynamic. While some aspects are speculative, others are drawn from our conversations and the impressions I've gathered.
In public, I see myself as being by his side, attentive and ready to serve him. I won't leave his side without his explicit permission, except when hosting, in which case I may briefly perform necessary duties, ensuring he is taken care of first. If we sit, I'll either sit beside him or on his lap, with exceptions for specific situations.
I'll be attentive to his needs, fetching him refills, food, or anything else he may require so he doesn't have to get up. He'll order food and make decisions for us, and I won't make eye contact with anyone or speak to staff unless necessary or without permission.
Whenever I need to go off somewhere, I'll inform him of the need and always ask for permission first. I won't hold any shopping bags (or hold all of them, whichever works best for our dynamic).
Regarding walking together, I'm unsure. I've thought about walking side by side, with him holding my wrist rather than my hand to show his dominance discreetly. Alternatively, I feel protected and submissive when my partner has his hand around the back of my neck, leading me around while we walk, especially in large crowds. This is something Brandon did naturally, and it would make me feel deeply submissive if it were my Dom. However, I am also accustomed to walking on the inside of the sidewalk, so that he is between me and the street, to be protected by my partner. Maybe he prefers me walking right behind him? This is something I would need to discuss with him to understand his preference.
In addition to these actions, I'll always maintain a respectful and discreet demeanor in public spaces, following his instructions regarding my behavior and adhering to any dress code or specific attire guidelines he sets. I'll seek explicit permission for any public displays of submission and always use "Sir" when addressing him. I imagine he would use some sort of vanilla term of endearment for me rather than "good little bitch." If I had my own choice, it would be "Scar," as that term is used by three people in my life that I do not see very often, making it special to us because of that.
I also imagine that when it comes to certain D/s topics or acts in public, we would develop a set of discreet signals or gestures to use. Maybe a certain look, a subtle hand gesture, or a specific phrase he wants to use. My mindset on this is that it would help us maintain the dynamic without drawing unwanted attention. I have used signals like this before with partners, such as wrapping my hand around my wrist or grabbing a bracelet to indicate discomfort or readiness to leave, rather than saying it out loud. Additionally, Jen and I silently signal each other on our level of intoxication to help each other slow down or get a ride if needed, which also helps keep others from forcing shots on us.
These considerations are based on the information he has shared with me and my own experiences. Ultimately, these decisions should be his, and I look forward to discussing them further with him.
Yours,
Scarlet
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